{"id":930,"date":"2014-07-07T18:06:54","date_gmt":"2014-07-07T18:06:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/?p=930"},"modified":"2020-06-18T17:46:12","modified_gmt":"2020-06-18T17:46:12","slug":"3-letter-word-shift-depression-anxiety-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/3-letter-word-shift-depression-anxiety-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The 3 letter word that can shift depression and anxiety Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Depression<\/a>Practical steps for increasing your Happiness quotient.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In part 1 of how to increase your Happiness quotient, I talked about the importance of increasing the average of positive thoughts and verbal expressions in order to achieve a ratio of at least 3:1. Incidentally, if you\u2019d like to test your happiness quotient, try this online quiz<\/a> to give you an idea of how happy you tend to be in everyday life.<\/p>\n

So how can<\/i> you shift from negativity to YES?<\/b><\/p>\n

Step one: Become mindful <\/b>of your thoughts, your verbal expressions and what you tend to focus your energy on.<\/p>\n

Mindful thinking could be compared to meditation<\/b>. When you meditate and try to quiet the mind, you\u00a0 most likely notice how your mind drifts off before you bring it back to your breath or some other point of focus. Maintaining a steady awareness of negative self-talk, judgments, defeatist thinking and negative verbiage means raising your level of consciousness and presence with yourself and your mental and emotional state. You could compare this process to being the Quality Control supervisor at a chocolate factory (or any other merchandise) where you are observing the chocolates traveling on a conveyer belt past your vigilant gaze before being packaged. It is your job to pick out and remove any chocolate that is dented, broken, moldy or not up to the highest standards of satisfaction before they are packaged and shipped. \u00a0 You can create an awareness of your thoughts and language in similar fashion. Outgoing and Incoming <\/b>images, ideas and thoughts are examined and eliminated or replaced if found to be negative.<\/p>\n

Step two: Translate -ve thoughts<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Burnaby<\/a>Once you have identified the negative thoughts and expressions, translate them into positive expressions and affirmations. \u00a0 Remember that your unconscious mind cannot differentiate between the present or the future. It also doesn\u2019t hear \u201cnot.\u201d Example: I don\u2019t want to smoke to cope with stress.\u00a0 – your mind hears what you want …so I don\u2019t want to smoke is translated into \u201cI want to smoke\u201d… \u00a0 Affirmations need to be formulated in the present tense.<\/i><\/b> A good way to create positive affirmations is to start with a list of negative thoughts. Take a moment and write down some of the more common and repetitive negative thoughts, ideas and judgments that are on \u201cautoplay\u201d in your head. List these thoughts on the left hand side of a page… think about choosing YES, and replace them with an affirmation that starts with YES on the right side. Here are some examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
I am never going to lose weight.<\/td>\nC<\/i><\/b> H<\/i><\/b> O<\/i><\/b> O<\/i><\/b> S<\/i><\/b> E<\/i><\/b> \u00a0 Y<\/i><\/b> E<\/i><\/b> S<\/i><\/b><\/td>\nYes I can! I can influence my body weight thru healthy food choices and exercise.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I feel so guilty, I\u2019m a terrible parent.<\/td>\nYes I am! I forgive myself for the mistakes I make and appreciate that I try to be the best parent I can be.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I hate rain. It\u2019s going to be another crappy day.<\/td>\nYes I do! I appreciate all the good things in this day and focus on being positive.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Nobody ever helps me around here. I always have to do everything.<\/td>\nYes I can! I can ask for help and delegate tasks. I deserve to take breaks and have energy left at the end of the day.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

Of course it takes practice and regular effort to slowly shift from negative to YES.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Step three: Shift your focus in the world.<\/b><\/p>\n

You have heard about the glass being half empty or half full. Remember that you choose the thoughts you think. You also choose the lens and filter thru which you experience the world. You can either focus on the silver lining, the benefits, the things you can be grateful for… or you can get stuck in seeing everything thru the grey lens of disappointment and disgruntlement.<\/p>\n

Step four: Think about the purpose of your negative thought habits<\/b><\/p>\n

\"North<\/a>If you are finding it difficult to implement mindfulness and to shift to YES, ask yourself what would change in your life if you practiced a more positive mindset. What would happen if you lived your life with more joy and contentment?<\/strong> \u00a0 Sometimes we develop patterns because that is what we were taught. Often we maintain patterns because they represent some sort of security for us.<\/p>\n

If you think back to your family of origin… what would you say was the \u201cspeed limit\u201d for happiness in your family? Were your parents optimistic, joyful and content? Or was your mother a bit of a martyr or your father often angry? Perhaps you grew up with the chaos of addiction or the low vibrational energy of depression and anxiety. Perhaps your family had an intergenerational belief that life is about hard work and happiness was not the purpose of life. Maybe religion played a role in what you were taught or witnessed and feeling too good about yourself or life meant that you were straying of the righteous path of obedience and sacrifice. As you examine the beliefs about joy and happiness of your childhood and how they are still affecting you today, remember that you can make different choices at any given moment.<\/p>\n

If you are finding it difficult to sustain joy and positive energy in your mind and body, if you need help to cope with\u00a0depression \"Get<\/a>and anxiety, consider working with a counsellor such as myself who has a somatic (body-mind) approach. Integrative Body Psychotherapy \u00a0can help you repattern your thoughts and release negative holding patterns in your body. Hypnotherapy, EMDT or EFT are all useful tools to help you overcome depression and anxiety and shift from no to YES so you can\u00a0raise your Happiness Quotient.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Practical steps for increasing your Happiness quotient. In part 1 of how to increase your Happiness …<\/p>\n

The 3 letter word that can shift depression and anxiety Part 2<\/span> Read More \u00bb<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","filesize_raw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[7,63,46,47,31,67,70,38,24,5,37,68,69],"class_list":["post-930","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-awareness","tag-axiety","tag-breathe","tag-counselling","tag-depression","tag-depression-counselling","tag-happiness-quotient","tag-joy","tag-mindfulness","tag-positive-affirmations","tag-positive-life-changes","tag-positive-psychology","tag-stress-and-anxiety-relief"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/930","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=930"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/930\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1482,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/930\/revisions\/1482"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=930"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=930"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=930"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}