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If your total score is higher than 32, your life is undoubtedly being affected by perfectionism.<\/p>\n
You would think that with all this extra effort you would be particularly appreciated. Instead your boss has grown to expect you to be always available and the promotion went to Jane in accounting. Furthermore, your boyfriend, partner or family is not impressed. What is wrong with this picture you wonder?<\/p>\n As a perfectionist you\u2019re also every employee\u2019s nightmare.<\/strong> You can\u2019t relinquish control over anything and your stance is: why bother delegating to get the job done with mediocrity when you can do it yourself perfectly the first time. Your team is used to receiving mostly criticism rather than praise and everybody has long stopped to come up with innovative ideas. At home you wonder why you always have to do everything yourself. The truth is that others just don\u2019t do it well enough for you. Because, didn\u2019t you know, there is <\/em>a right way and a wrong way to stack the dishwasher\u2026<\/p>\n Perfectionists can be in the habit of engaging in a number of unhelpful behaviors to make sure that they continue to meet the incredibly high standards they set for themselves.<\/p>\n Difficulty in making decisions<\/strong> is one of these unhelpful behaviours that you might be engaging in if you have perfectionistic tendencies.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s say you\u2019ve had a long day at work and all you really want to do is have a quiet evening in front of the TV. The voice in your head however is of a different opinion. It is suggesting that really you should<\/em> be going to the gym because otherwise you\u2019re going to gain weight. Or, you should<\/em> work for another hour on that report you have to present tomorrow. Or, you should<\/em> have sex tonight because that\u2019s what your boyfriend or partner has been hoping for. When you have all these shoulds <\/em>going on, it can become very confusing and feel overwhelming.<\/p>\n In the end you don\u2019t know<\/em> what you really want to do. All you do know is, that you want to do the right thing, you don\u2019t want to upset anyone and you don\u2019t want to hurt anybody\u2019s feelings. Every should<\/em> has a whole chorus of voices advocating its validity.<\/p>\n So here you are, struggling to make a decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n If the should virus has taken over your life and your trying to figure out what you really want to do, you need to go back to the body. Remember, while all the voices in your head are competing for your attention, your body already knows the truth.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/overworked.jpg\" "\\"Psychotherapy")
<\/a>As a perfectionist you\u2019re every employers dream. <\/strong>You\u2019re usually willing and ready to work overtime and always go the extra mile. Your colleagues come and hand you projects they don\u2019t have time for because they know you will take them on\u2026 even though your own to do list is stretched to the max.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n