{"id":833,"date":"2012-10-10T23:07:22","date_gmt":"2012-10-10T23:07:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/?p=833"},"modified":"2020-06-18T17:48:10","modified_gmt":"2020-06-18T17:48:10","slug":"avoiding-the-double-edged-sword-of-perfectionism-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/avoiding-the-double-edged-sword-of-perfectionism-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoiding the double-edged sword of perfectionism: Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Are you a perfectionist? You might be nodding your head vigorously and saying \u201cYes, that me. It\u2019s what has gotten me to where I am today.\u201d Or you might think that you\u2019re so laid back and relaxed, perfectionism plays no role in your life whatsoever.<\/p>\n

No matter what your stance, perfectionism can be a double-edged sword\u00a0<\/strong>because it can lead to counter-productive behaviors.<\/p>\n

Marketing and advertising strategies tend to exploit the image of \u201cthe perfect woman.\u201d What\u2019s wrong with doing and looking your best, you may ask? After all, many would concur that being a high achiever is what makes you successful.<\/p>\n

As a perfectionist you may be familiar with \u00a0certain behaviours that are actually counter-productive to your desired outcome.<\/p>\n

We all know the quote \u201cDon\u2019t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.\u201d<\/strong> One might think that perfectionists would be the first ones to put this into action.<\/p>\n

Yet a common behavior for perfectionists to engage in, is procrastination.<\/strong> You see, what we haven\u2019t really talked about yet, is that perfectionism is connected to anxiety.<\/strong> The anxiety or the fear of not being good enough, of being rejected, of being a failure or displeasing someone.<\/em><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s take the example of Susan. Susan is a successfully self-employed interior decorator. Recently her business coach suggested that she should start blogging to establish herself as an expert and connect more frequently with her clients. On Friday, when Susan had planned to blog, she found herself very busy. She caught up on all her filing, she did her invoicing and she cleared her desk. Because her office is located in her home, Susan then decided she should bake some muffins as an afternoon snack for the children. Susan got a lot accomplished on that Friday, except the one thing that was on her schedule: write the blog post.<\/p>\n

When Susan and I talked about what happened, she realized that her procrastination was connected to anxiety. She was worried that her writing wouldn\u2019t be good enough. She agonized that people reading her blog post would think she was stupid or was passing on irrelevant information. She was a hostage of perfectionism, which in turn made her feel vulnerable and afraid to fail.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>\u00a0Do you ever find yourself putting off a task because you\u2019re not good at it or you\u2019re worried about the outcome?<\/strong><\/p>\n

While procrastination is actually a way to self soothe your feelings of anxiety, in the long run it makes things worse. Anxiety lives in the body, so one way for you to move forward is to literally move your body forward. Grounding breathing techniques such as belly breathing, visualizing a positive outcome, and repeating positive affirmations can help.<\/p>\n

You can also break down the task at hand into small steps so it feels less overwhelming. Progress comes with awareness. Once you have<\/em> identified that you\u2019re procrastinating and why, you can do something about it. Journaling and exploring worst-case scenarios can be useful to dispel the story in your head.\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Because it is a story, a story that you\u2019ve been telling yourself or that you have bought into. And just like you can change your thoughts, you can choose and learn to change the story. <\/strong>Are you ready to let go of your need to do it perfectly?<\/p>\n

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Are you a perfectionist? You might be nodding your head vigorously and saying \u201cYes, that me. …<\/p>\n

Avoiding the double-edged sword of perfectionism: Part 1<\/span> Read More \u00bb<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","filesize_raw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8,1],"tags":[7,63,46,31,29,41,36,56,50],"class_list":["post-833","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog-posts","category-uncategorized","tag-awareness","tag-axiety","tag-breathe","tag-depression","tag-feeling-responsible","tag-life-transition-counselling","tag-low-self-esteem","tag-perfectionism","tag-self-compassion"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/833","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=833"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/833\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1485,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/833\/revisions\/1485"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=833"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=833"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=833"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}