{"id":765,"date":"2012-06-01T17:01:32","date_gmt":"2012-06-01T17:01:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/?p=765"},"modified":"2012-06-01T17:01:32","modified_gmt":"2012-06-01T17:01:32","slug":"dont-stuff-your-anger-3-anger-coping-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/dont-stuff-your-anger-3-anger-coping-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"Don&#8217;t stuff your anger &#8211; 3 anger coping tips"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/PQW86KAwsGs\" frameborder=\"0\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>Do you make negative associations with Anger? You\u2019re not alone.<\/strong> Few of us had \u201chealthy anger\u201d role models. For many, expressing anger or being at the receiving end of anger brings up a whole range of uncomfortable emotions.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re a woman, you might struggle even more, because you may have been taught to internalize your anger.<\/p>\n<p>When anger has you heading to the cupboards, you can easily end up overeating while trying to express or rather <em>re<\/em>press what you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Did you know that suppressed negative emotions have been linked to causing serious illness like cancer?<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Scientific research shows that negative emotions can affect the pH level of your body. Feelings like anger, revenge or hate create metabolic acids. When you suppress these emotions, over time, you increase your potential of high acid levels that can impact the potential for cancerous growth in your body.<\/p>\n<p>So let\u2019s step away from hurting yourself and look at some<strong> ideas for <em>expressing <\/em>your anger rather than stuffing it down.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0<strong> Vent on paper \u2013 do \u201cthe angry opera\u201d<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Use your journal or perhaps you have a file on your computer\u2026 and tell it like it is. Don\u2019t\u00a0 hold back. You don\u2019t have to worry about anybody hurting you back, or about stepping on someone\u2019s toes.<\/p>\n<p>Express how you feel and how angry you are and get it out of your system. You could even write a letter (that you may choose to send or not) to the person who hurt you or who you are angry with.<\/p>\n<p>Often getting it all out without holding back can give way to calmer feelings.<\/p>\n<p>Because in my counselling practice, I\u00a0 use an integrated mind \u2013 body approach I always encourage you to also release that pent up energy in some physical way.<\/p>\n<p>Writing gives shape to your thoughts of hurt and anger.<\/p>\n<p>But what about your clenched jaw, your tight throat, the knot in your stomach and the tension in your body?<\/p>\n<p>Ideally you would have a safe space where you could shout or holler, make faces to stretch your jaw. Jump up and down, stomp your feet, do an \u201canger dance\u201d or pound a pillow. Your car (not moving in traffic or with passengers) can be a great place to give vocal expression to your anger.<\/p>\n<p>And always\u2026 <strong>don\u2019t forget to breathe.<\/strong> Belly breaths activate the para-sympathetic nervous system and will calm you down.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>The Serenity Prayer<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Do you know the serenity prayer? It starts like this<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGrant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;<br \/>\nthe courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re angry or frustrated about something, <strong>it helps to have some sense of control.<\/strong> Take a look at what\u2019s going on for you and decide if there\u2019s anything you can do to improve the situation.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes there is and sometimes all you can do is learn from what happened so it doesn\u2019t happen again.Consider that by eating you are stepping into the passive role of the victim. By taking assessment of what you can do, you also take some of your power back.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0<strong>Be assertive<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Do you eat when others talk down to you, criticize you or take advantage of your good nature?<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t forget that you have a right to your own views, emotions, values and opinions. You have the right to say NO. And you have a right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Get into the habit of sticking up for yourself. Someone picks on you \u2013 tell them to stop it. Set boundaries. By being assertive, you may find that some people will back down. <strong>Nobody has the right to treat you badly. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re not used to asserting yourself, you might consider taking an assertiveness training class.<\/p>\n<p>If anger has caused trauma in your life and is impacting how you respond and deal with this emotion today, solution focused counselling can help you.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you make negative associations with Anger? You\u2019re not alone. Few of us had \u201chealthy anger\u201d &hellip;<\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more\"> <a class=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/dont-stuff-your-anger-3-anger-coping-tips\/\"> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Don&#8217;t stuff your anger &#8211; 3 anger coping tips<\/span> Read More \u00bb<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","filesize_raw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[61,13,28,47,59,22,9,35,10,39,50],"class_list":["post-765","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-anger-management","tag-binge-eating","tag-codependency","tag-counselling","tag-diabetes","tag-dieting","tag-emotional-eating","tag-freedom","tag-naturally-thin","tag-obesity","tag-self-compassion"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/765","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=765"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/765\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":769,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/765\/revisions\/769"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=765"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=765"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=765"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}