{"id":1138,"date":"2017-03-02T03:28:50","date_gmt":"2017-03-02T03:28:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/?p=1138"},"modified":"2020-06-18T17:42:13","modified_gmt":"2020-06-18T17:42:13","slug":"increasing-happiness-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goddessrevealed.ca\/tapro\/increasing-happiness-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you unconsciously limiting your sense of well-being and happiness?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you limit how good you feel? Your first response may be \u201cOf course not, why would I do that?\u201d<\/p>\n

Might it be possible that you do this unconsciously<\/i> because this is what you were taught?<\/p>\n

Sometimes what we have learned\u00a0 becomes so much part of what we do and who we are that we don\u2019t think about it. It is part of our \u201cnormal.\u201d<\/p>\n

For instance, I don\u2019t imagine you spend a lot of time thinking about how you walk. You learned how to walk a long time \"Happiness<\/a>ago and now you just get up and move. Most likely it would only be if you were in unfamiliar terrain, or if you had been injured and needed to relearn how to walk that you became more aware of your gait.<\/p>\n

As a therapist who is passionate about supporting women return to wholeness, I am committed to\u00a0 doing my own personal healing and growth work.\u00a0 So it was an interesting process for me to ponder a question a colleague asked me the other day.<\/p>\n

You see, I have been experiencing a \u201cmysterious\u201d pain in my body for the last few months. Doctors haven\u2019t been able to figure out so far what is causing it. All we know\u00a0 is that I am pretty healthy. All tests have come back negative. And yet, here I am, often feeling exhausted from being in pain at random times.<\/p>\n

So when my friend casually threw out \u201cWho would you be without this pain?\u201d<\/strong> it made me pause and ponder. Well\u2026 life is pretty good. I love having family close by. I love the work I do. I love where I live. Every day my heart is filled with a long list of things that I am grateful for or that I appreciate.<\/p>\n

So without the pain, I would have more energy\u00a0and feel more expanded than I do. And that is where I had an \u201caha\u201d moment.<\/p>\n

\"how<\/a>Perhaps I am coming up against old speed limits. Growing up, the focus in my family was placed on performance, hard work, duty, doing one\u2019s best. I was a pretty lively child and my grandparents who raised me were probably overwhelmed by all my energy. So I often heard \u201cDon\u2019t be so excited!\u201d or \u201cSettle down.\u201d For various reasons my environment wasn\u2019t very tolerant of my exuberance.<\/p>\n

So I became quite a serious little girl. I learned to focus on doing it right. In fact that has become so much part of my nature, that a beloved partner once gave me the nickname \u201cErnestine.\u201d<\/p>\n

While there wasn\u2019t a very high tolerance for fun and mischief, laughter and play or happiness in my family, there was a very high level of acceptance around anger, victimhood and the motto \u201clife is hard.\u201d<\/p>\n

What were the emotional speed limits in your family of origin?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I invite you to take a moment and identify, on a scale of 1-10 your comfort level with<\/p>\n